Infertility is so heartbreaking. It has meant I am struggling to find a future for myself. When we moved back and gave up so much we knew it was for the greater good of our own happy wee family. I could picture that future.
Now I am lost. I find it so hard that there are so many things beyond us. The loss of control is very hard for me.
Last week spending time with both sides of my family just reiterated how important family is. I realized that I don't want to be 90 and not have anyone to visit me or just listen to my stories.
WeI both took the week to think about what we really want. And a family is still on that list. My husband wants to make me happy but I know that he was disappoint after the dr appointment.
So we have decided to change what we eat. I know that going back to low carb eating, cutting out wheat and sugar and having a mainly veggie diet is the best thing for my body.
We are not giving up on having our own child but it can't be my focus. I know myself and know I get obsessed with things. And it would break me if I changed my whole life to attempt to have a child and it doesn't happen. I was so sad after 2 months of what i thought was cycles and not being pregnant.
So this is what we have decided to do with the support of my family. We are going to hope for a miracle but look for the positive. We have begin enquires to complete our family by adopting a child that needs us.
It can take a year or more before we even get on the adoption register and then it is waiting. We have set a time limit, that if we do not have child by my 40th then we need to move on with our lives. So we have a little while to focus on and changing our lifestyle so the wee one, be it a child of our blood or heart, will have 2 happy healthy parents for a very long time.
So today I called the 0800 number at CYF to start this new journey.
I was given the number of the local contact. I called that number, the answer phone gave me another to call, and then the next voice message told me to call the first. I left a message. Okay so we are off to a rough start. Am not taking this as a sign and will try again in the next day or so.
So today I called the 0800 number at CYF to start this new journey.
I was given the number of the local contact. I called that number, the answer phone gave me another to call, and then the next voice message told me to call the first. I left a message. Okay so we are off to a rough start. Am not taking this as a sign and will try again in the next day or so.
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